Success Perspectives – Tony Robbins
You will rethink your entire life
Everyone wants to have success in life. Is it possible to find success now, rather than wait for some arbitrary moment in the future? According to Tony Robbins, the answer is an overwhelming yes! Here’s a transcription of his video.
In people’s lives there’s only maybe a half dozen, seven, eight categories that really matter most people you know they major in minor things. They focus on stuff that doesn’t matter. They know more about this celebrity going in and out of rehab than they do about their own personal development. But I say if you look at your body without that, everything else is out the door. You don’t want to be the richest man in the graveyard. That’s not gonna do it. If there is energy, if there’s vitality of their strength, it’s gonna show up in your relationship. So it’s gonna show up in your business. And it’s gonna show up in your life. That’s it.
If you got a master, he can’t dabble, it’s too important. Emotions are everything. I mean you got a ton of money, you got everybody loves you, and your primary emotions are pissed off and frustrated, then your life’s pissed off and frustrated. As a matter if you’ve got a billion dollars or a million people loving you, your life is my great relationships; intimate relationships, especially. It’s where the most juice and life comes from. And the most pain comes to most people. But it’s worth mastering instead of dabbling. You know, really looking at what are you gonna do with your time? And master your time instead of having a checklist you cross on all off.
I want to squeeze out that time. What matters that creates value for me and for everyone I care about. Love what about your career or your business and the mastery of that. But a dabbling. Most businesses are dabblers. That’s why they don’t make it. 96% you know, any ten-year period of time. 4% make it. That doesn’t mean they’re profitable and it does not mean they’re enjoying themselves, all right? Or they’re getting anybody else to feel good. Really mastering money so that it’s not a question. You can do and be and give and share as much as you want. You’re not stressed about your living place.
And then spiritually. Really I think I don’t tell people to believe spiritually. But I believe that ultimately whatever you believe, you’ve got to live it. And it should lead to growing and giving. If you’re growing it see otherwise. If you’re giving, you feel ten times more aligned. And I think if someone can celebrate and give, then that’s a spiritual state. So to me, those are the years I look at mastering you know, business for sure. But it’s the areas of life that matter most. And most of what we spend our time doesn’t make people feel fulfilled.
That’s why the average person is not fit and healthy
The average person is not in a relationship where they have tremendous passion. I’m not a positive thinker. I know the truth. The average person is not successful with this. The obverse is not earning what they want. But you know what? Very few people have those things. But a few do. A few are happy, fulfilled, spiritually alive, financially strong. Their business is growing, they have passionate love affairs, and I’m obsessed with finding a few who do. And find out what they do different. Teaching to everybody. So everyone’s gonna measure themselves differently because everyone values things differently.
Some people value success or significance. While some people value love more, and some value just basic levels of certainty. So when I look at those specific metrics, I really look at metrics of what are the things that need to be measured, to know if your life is gonna work or not. So I look at it as our whole lives are guided moment to moment by the state. Learning how to change your state, not fake, but to go from pissed-off frustrated freaked out – back in your Center or creative or determined or something that’s gonna move you forward.
That’s a critical skill set. So moment to moment unless controlled by our state’s. Yep, you know if you’re an angry state, you’re gonna respond differently. If you’re feeling playful, but what controls those states long term, as your model, your world view. And I look at that as having as a metric. Three things that I look at. I look to see first what are the targets you’re after.
The target is everybody has that everyone’s different goals and dreams and desires but as I travel around the world to 100 countries I started going I should have seen the same problems what’s underneath of the embassy that there are these same six human needs. That we all have the same needs. We all have a need for certainty that we can avoid pain and we can have some pleasures, some comfort. And we all need uncertainty. So we need variety or we feel dead inside.
If you’re totally certain you’re barred, if you have total variety or look freak out and it’s not a balance. It’s learning which of these you need more as a person. Everyone’s developed a different set of values. Better need of the need for significance, to feel unique, special rapport, they need to feel well, the need to grow and they need to contribute. Some people allow you certainty. At the top, that’s their center of their target. I don’t want to do anything else. I know it’s gonna work. I don’t do anything unless it’s the same. If you change anything, they freak out. If certainty is the number one thing on your list. Everyone has the same needs but it’s number one. I know how your life’s gonna be. I can predict the direction of your life and therefore the destination, to some extent.
We live in a Facebook world of fake success
If you’re driven by love first, you want certain you do that love is higher you’re gonna behave very differently than if you’re driven by significance. I have to be the one, so I look to see which of those needs are the top two on your list because they control your life. The two that most people have 90% of the planet if you said of all these needs which one do you really focus on most day-to-day. Everybody wants love. What do you focus on? Most people focus on being significant. We live in a Facebook world, where people fake their lives. They put new filters, make it look different than it really is, tell stories that you know are totally full of it to make himself look good.
Because we live in this kind of false world where significance is more important than love. And it separates us. And the other one that we see most often is certainty. People want to be certain before they can do something. You couldn’t have started a business like you had if you’re absolutely certain before you started. You can never build a business with that. You can never build a great relationship because if it’s based on certain even everybody’s got to stay the same to never change because you’re never gonna grow which means gonna be miserable. So my metrics are I want to find out what’s driving you. I want to see is it healthy or unhealthy? You can have two people be driven by significance though and do it with a different set of rules.
An extraordinary life is life success on your terms
That’s the second piece. I measure the beliefs. Our rules are how to fulfill that target by weight. I want to be more clear about something. An extraordinary life is life on your terms and there’s two parts. Part one to have an extraordinary life is mastering the skill of the science of achievement. How do we take what I envision and make it real? And how do I do that quicker, faster, better, easier? The ability to manifest what you come up with and make it real, like you’ve done with your company.
Yes that’s a skill set I spend unbelievable mega time helping people to a faster, quicker, better. Showing the shortcuts she’s teaching in the strategies. And modeling what works. You can save yourself a decade. But I would submit to you that having done this for 38 years with you know, 50 million people at this stage. I can tell you that there are a lot of people that are damn good at the science of achievement and they still have extraordinary lives. You see it as extraordinary.
I get the phone call from the multi billionaire
who tells me he wants to do this thing on his business but what he really finds out is he’s miserable as hell. And he’s hoping somehow I’m gonna rub off on him on that side tonight. And so I give what he asked for; the change in his business. But I also get what he needs. Just the change inside of him. So the second skill is the artist of salesman. If you want extraordinary life you can’t just achieve, you got to be fulfilled. As simplistic as that sounds, but it’s an art. It’s not a science.
It’s a science to making money come on any age, any color, any background, any gender. If you do these things you’ll have an abundance of money. And if you do these things you’re gonna have too much month at the end of the money. You’re gonna have financial stress, right? Everyone’s biochemically different. But you and I both know there’s fundamental rules; laws. There’s a science of the body. If you violate that science, you’re gonna have disease, you’re gonna have low energy. But if you align with that, you’re gonna have an abundance of energy. It’s gonna affect everything in your life. It’s a science.
Success & fulfillment is as different as we are human
Things you wanna know God or the universe? Look at the jungle, look at the forest. It’s diverse, right? So most people think well I want to get that because they’ve been modeling somebody else. And that might work on how to achieve something. It’ll never work for what if fulfill you. How many people, you know, like you? What you thought you wanted and you weren’t fulfilled. And that I always tell people being successful without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.
We lost what I consider a national treasure: Robin Williams
It’s the ultimate failure because if you go out something and you fail and you’re an achiever you don’t fail. You learned something. I’ll just try something else. I’m gonna still get there. But when you succeed and you’re not happy. So a perfect example of this I mentioned in a seminar you are there. Because it hit me about it what about a year and a month ago we lost what I consider a national treasure: Robin Williams. And I asked people how many of you love Robin Williams.
The ultimate failure
Everybody raised hands. All around the world, right? He made people laugh. People are touched by him. So how good was he at the science of achievement? I mean he wanted to be a great comedian; make the whole world laugh. He did. He wanted to have his own TV show. He did. Well the number one show. He did it. He wanted to make movies. He did it. He wanted to have an Academy Award for not being funny, but dramatic and he did it. And said he want a beautiful family. He achieved everything and he hung himself. And I know recently someone’s saying well you know you have dementia, he did drug abuse, he had alcohol abuse. Most was life because he made everybody happy but himself. That’s the ultimate failure.
So if I have no other message to offer you, let me give it right now. I’ll tell you what I believe. I believe our lives are controlled by one force decisions. I certainly believe in force greater than myself; call God, if you will, grace, whatever you want to call it. The universe. But I also believe it gives us choices. And the decisions we make control us much more than the conditions we meet. It’s not the conditions at your decisions. Decisions what to believe, decisions what to do, there’s what to give. I say to people think about, you know, look about 10 years ago, five years ago, 15 years ago. And think of a decision you made. But if you would have made a different decision you’d have a totally different life today. Better? worse? I don’t know, but totally different.
The most important decision you can make above any on the face of the earth is deciding that no matter what happens in your life, no matter what happens, you’re gonna live in a beautiful state. The decision to say I am NOT gonna suffer. Then if suffering arises means one thing: sufferings. Another suffering is when you’re like suffering can be worry, could be anger, can be frustration.
It’s anything that takes you out of a beautiful state and here’s what people don’t get. You can end suffering by stop focusing on yourself and focus on something you want to serve greater than yourself; your children, your wife, your mission. Your life: you can get out of it in an instant because the nature of the human mind is to constantly compare things.
Your mind and your brain is a two-million-year-old device and it is not designed to make you happy. It’s suicide to make you survive, right? And that’s what it’s always looking for. It’s wrong. It has to be what’s wrong. A saber-toothed tiger, so I can protect myself. And now people are worried about what people think about them or do they have enough money. When two thirds of the planet lives on $2 a day and you’re making $38,000. You’re rich. The poorest of the poor in our country are considered rich. I’m not saying they should stay that way, right? But you can only build on success.
Life is short. We don’t know how short, so grab success now
My goal would have you consider something. Life is short. We don’t know how short. But it’s got a date. So if you only had a week to live, I bet you would allow yourself to suffer over a little crap that makes you crazy normally. I think you would probably spend time with those who loved you, those you love, you take in a sunset, you’d smell the air, taking everything in those final moments. So my thing is, why wait, right? Right? Why wait? Why not just decide?
Then if I start to suffer, I know the solution because suffering is me obsessing about me. You might say it’s not me; I’m worried about my kids because they’re not doing well. No, you’re worried that you haven’t done enough for your kids. It’s about being useful, right? Yes, you know you’re worried about what was done, or what you should have done, or what should have done. And you can end that in an instant by becoming aware of it and saying I have made the most important decision of all, right? I’m gonna be living to be able to stay.
You can decide, no matter what happens, you could have a great time and find success now
Because here’s what’s gonna happen. You may lose a family member. You probably will. Somebody may get cancer, your business may end, the government might change the rules, they might change things radically you can’t even do anything about. You might go bankrupt, you might get divorced. I don’t say a little bit. Now sure, no one knows what’s gonna really happen in your life. Life is full of uncertainty but here’s what you can know: you can decide no matter what happens you could have a great time.
if somebody like Viktor Frankl can be locked up in Auschwitz and come out of that and experience finding joy in the middle of Auschwitz then human beings have a capacity they’ve under sold themselves on. We think that the outside world determines how we feel. It’s if people have to behave a certain way, if your husband or your wife or your kids or your co-workers or whoever your boss has to behave a certain way for you to be happy. And if they don’t, you’re unhappy. So then you’re always gonna be unhappy because the more people around you the more they’re gonna change them because they’re all human, right?
My invitation to success is as great as it is to achieve
So it’s more important to enjoy and if you can enjoy every moment in that state when you’re feeling loving and playful and passionate and curious and awe, you treat other people hundred times better than when you’re feeling frustrated, pissed off, overwhelmed, worried, stressed, or feeling sorry for yourself. You’re gonna be a better parent, you’re gonna be a better lover, you’re gonna be a better business person. Again, a better life. So my soliloquy is decide. Decide today and actually say what if I cut it off, what if I said I’m not willing to settle, and I’m just gonna live in a beautiful state. It doesn’t mean you won’t feel bad and to mean you won’t stay there.
But what the hell is success? it’s hitting an expectation. And I always tell people; man trade your expectations for appreciation. It’s a whole new world. And stuff you can appreciate this moment. If you can’t find ecstasy in this moment in a conversation with a friend and looking in your wife’s eyes being with your children, going on a run I thought if you can’t find ecstasy now, I’m here to tell you more money, more people, more love, more business, more anything, is not gonna give you more happiness, either. If you can’t do it here now you’re not gonna do it there when you got more.
It’s like you can be wealthy right now
So what? I do it now and and have a rich life right now. I tell people money that’s one thing like having financial abundance through skills that’s a science or wealth. It’s like you can be wealthy right now. I live in Fiji. There are these villagers there. They’re the richest people I know. They’re happy. They laugh. And they love. But they don’t give a damn about the economics. Other people say they’re poor.
When I first went there, I was trying to do things for them, too. Like what are you talking about? I’m so happy! Wealthy people come over from the United States and they go travel around and try to figure out what to do. And they’re gonna spend nine years to do this in this myth so they can finally sit down and be happy. And then jean guy goes why don’t you sit on the beach right now? Why spend the nine years? Why not happen now? That’s my invitation you. If you struggle with believing you can have success, I have a free report just for you. Download it here.
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